Call it what it is.

Are you that guy?

Are you the one that would come up to me at a party, behaving very sweet and nice, make me laugh, compliment me and make me feel like I was really special?

Or are you the guy that would ask me to dance, let me put my head on your shoulder while I listened to you sing the words of a love song in my ear.

Maybe you're the one that would ask me to go for a walk, would casually take my hand in yours and tell me you'd never met a girl like me.

Are you that guy that would do all of these things and fool me into believing you really liked me?

Because if you are, shame on you.

Shame on you for taking advantage of a young girls insecurity. Shame on you for praying on her uncontrollable hunger to be noticed, to be appreciated, to be loved.

I've long since gotten over being considered a slut. I have come to terms with the fact that I was taken advantage of by many guys. I know that I was feeling a lot of pain then, and having sex with multiple partners was a way for me to numb the pain, even if only for a short time. It was no different than my dependence on drugs and alcohol.

But what really bothers me is knowing that this happens to so many girls, and guys are so good at taking advantage of it.

I get it, boys are horny little buggers, and it is nearly impossible for them to resist a young girl giving them the attention they crave. You cannot blame them for trying to get a girl to sleep with them.

But what I wish they would stop is the deceitful ways in which they go about it, and the horrible way they will treat a girl afterwards.

Don't lead her on. Don't make her think that if she sleeps with you the two of you will live happily ever after. Call it what it is...a booty call.

And for gods sake....don't brag about it afterwards. Don't label her a slut. Treat her with respect, and give her the credit she deserves. What she was doing was no different than what you did.

And whatever you do, don't guilt her, bribe her or force her into being with you. That's what god gave you hands, Penthouse and K-Y for. Just go home and use them. I promise not to tell.